i was in a casual relationship with a guy for a while until he unexpectedly ended it but came back a few months later to pick up where we left off. later on i found out that he had a 4-5 month old son after i saw baby toys lying around which shocked me because i had never seen evidence of a baby, or any female presence, in his apt before. however, we did spend that time apart and have never been exclusive so anything couldve happen, but i ended up staying with him. he loves being a dad and even got a bigger apartment for his son to have his own room with lots of toys and pictures of them everywhere. his son is almost 2 now and we’ve been casual for about five years. he’s in his 30’s, lives alone, and has shown me that he doesnt want us to end even when i’ve tried to leave. he supposedly remains just friends with the mom for his son’s sake and when i’m around its all about just me and him. he’s looking for a house now but we’re still not exclusive and i wonder if we’ll ever be more???
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i was in a casual relationship with a guy for a while until he unexpectedly ended it but came back a few months later to pick up where we left off…
2 replies on “SINGLE FATHER…commit or quit…why won’t he choose?”
Ask him!!!
I am a single father. The most important thing in my life is my children. However, the fact that he isn’t with the mother anymore may be because that relationship turned out to horrible (they may be amicable now, but there are still underlying feeling of resentment).
He may be hesitant to be exclusive because of his past- not your present. Probably just talking to him specifically about what he wants from the relationship with you and the relationship he wants between you and his child.
His decision will affect more than just him- it also affects his child. Talk to him, wait, talk again. He will either come around are you will come to an understanding of what you need to do for you.