he calls me names like mother f*er and lazy because i have been super tired the last couple of days and he let me sleep in till 1pm. I try my best, im not perfect by any means. I dont feel like i deserve it i also was working for a months 3 months after my baby was born, its all so confusing, has anyone experienced this? will it get better? he also calls our son names sometimes. Our place isnt messy he just get mad when there are some things like a toy or spit up blanket lying around. our baby is 4 months and my husband doesnt work
sorry I forgot to write that he does help out around the house alot. dishes and washes clothes sometimes and cooks quite a bit. He has been angry since he lost his 2 brothers 3 years ago, I have put up with it because i felt bad for him but now his anger over his 2 brothers being killed isstarting to ruin our relationship. He wasnt like this before. sometimes i think he was mad when I went to work because it meant he had to stay home with the baby. I dont know he is an awesome dad and husband he just slips up i guess like we all do.I just really needed to vent because I dont have anyone here to vent on.Thanks
he had an accident at work a year ago with his hands and they are almost 100% better, he can work just wants to wait with the WSIB stuff
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he calls me names like mother f*er and lazy because i have been super tired the last couple of days and he let me sleep in till 1pm. I try my best…
8 replies on “ever since our baby was born things have been really different, my husband calls me names?”
That’s verbal abuse. There is no excuse for it.
That is so not ok. For him to call you names AND your son names. What a dick. Was he like this before? I say seek some counseling by your self, and with him. If it doesnt start changing leave, because things will not become better. Personally, I would not stay with him If I were you. The way he is acting is not ok, and you and your child do not deserve to be treated like that! You really should consider going and seeking some help and possibly living with a close friend or family member and let him get a reality check.
Good luck with everything!
I have to wonder if he is man enough to clean up a bit. I mean, he blames you for this? He seems to be very immature and ‘dependent’ on you. Like, he is angry because you are not there to pay attention to his needs (better known as wants)? He resents having a child and you having to adjust from the pregnancy and child birth because? (you’re not in the mood for sex? or your body has changed and he can’t come to terms with it?)
He sounds like an airhead who is way too immature to be in a relationship. And, he is being abusive to you.
I think you should ask yourself is this is the life you want your son to be raised in?? There is no excuse what so ever for him to call you names nor should he call your son names. Here is what I am reading, correct me if I am wrong by all means. YOU work and he does not and he calls you lazy? Why isn’t that lazy asshat cleaning the house mamas? You need to sit that boy down and have a come to Jesus talk and tell him to start helping and stop calling the names or he is out of there!!
It is definately verbal abuse and there is more coming due to his ffelings of inadequacies as a man. Look this up and judge for yourself and if you have any questions let me know.
You just gave your husband a child, he should not be calling you anything, but, loving names.
He sounds like he has good attributes. You need to go to the Dr. and get a blood test to make sure your hormones are getting back to normal. He isn’t getting enough sleep, your not eithe, so that also makes for anger happening. He has to mature and be a daddy and except the fact that once a baby is in the house, there will be spit ups, dirty diapers, and crying. I hope its not you, dear. Just let him know that calling you names in not good for the baby because you can not be calm while nursing or holding the child. NO man should be calling his new baby bad names.
Hello,
So you spent 9 months growing a human being in your body, gave birth, you look after that new life and return to work, whereas he doesn’t work – and you’re lazy ????
This behavior is new since the baby came ? Is he that jealous of the baby ?
I would suggest councilling and the sooner the better.
Take care & good luck
Your husband is the lazy one not you. If I were you I would confront him, he is the one who should be watching what he says, your the one with the job, if you walked out on him he would have to go to work. I wouldn’t take that kind of treatment but everyone is different.